Lean on these resources when you’re feeling sad or lonely
When you’re feeling sad, depressed, or just out of sorts, it’s sometimes tempting to want to hunker down at home. But isolating yourself is the last thing you should do when you’re experiencing the blues. That’s because, over time, prolonged isolation can lead to physical health problems, including a weakened immune system, heart disease, depression, and dementia.
Of course, that doesn’t necessarily mean you need to jump straight into building a busy social life. Simply asking for help—be it through a phone call or an in-person chat with a professional—can be useful during this time.
Turn to these resources when you’re feeling blue.
Talk to a Loved One or Friend
If there is someone in your life that you trust, it may be helpful to talk to them about your depression and how you are feeling. The conversation can give you a chance to share what is going on in your life, and how they might be able to help you.
Help Yourself by Helping Others
According to a 2018 study in The Journals of Gerontology, just two hours of volunteer work per week may ease loneliness and depression.
Unsure where to start? VolunteerMatch.org helps connect individuals looking to serve others with organizations that need help. After creating an account and filling out your interests, availability, and location, the site will offer a list of organizations to choose from, based on your abilities. The YMCA also offers opportunities to work with adults and people with special abilities.
Consider Reaching Out to a Professional
Many times, your feelings are trying to tell you something, says Carla DeFraine, Ph.D., a psychologist in Irvine, California. There may be underlying reasons why you feel sad, and there may be things in your life that need to change. A mental health professional, such as a psychologist, psychiatrist, or therapist can help you explore the emotions you are having, determine whether they are part of a medical problem like depression, and help create a plan for treatment and how to implement health changes in your life.
To find a licensed behavioral health provider in your area, use the Find a Doctor tool (an Independence Blue Cross resource).
The Anxiety and Depression Association of America has a nationwide directory where you can search for professionals by city. You can also call the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration Treatment Referral Helpline at 1-800-662-HELP (4357), or use the tool online to find someone to talk to.
Call Someone ASAP if You Feel Hopeless or are Experiencing a Crisis
If you are having an emotional crisis or thinking about suicide, or you suspect a loved one might be going through either, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255. They’re open 24/7, so don’t hesitate to call, day or night.
A list of hotlines that can help when you’re in need:
- SAMHSA (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration): A free, confidential service available 24/7 for individuals with substance abuse and/or mental disorders who are seeking counseling. Call 1-800-662-HELP (4357).
- Veterans Crisis Line: Veterans experiencing a crisis, or who are concerned about a loved one, can call or go online to chat with a professional. Call 1-800-273-8255 and press 1.
- National Sexual Assault Hotline: If you, or someone you care for, is the victim of sexual violence or assault, you can call or chat online with a trained staff member in your area. Call 1-800-656-HOPE (4673).
- The National Domestic Violence Hotline: Speak confidentially with a trained expert if you, or someone you know, is experiencing domestic violence. Call 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or chat online.
